Today I meet the Kindest Person in line at the Whole
Foods Store. She made a comment about the 20 containers of Rice and
Almond milk that I had TOWERING in my cart. :) I explained Our new diet
changes and she asked how it was going. And then she asked the reason
for the switch. I have to tell you after last weeks Episode of
negativity from my fellow Sams Club shoppers I was a bit hesitant. But,
I was welcomed with a caring stream of questions and she even passed on
some much needed encouragement and even a Kudos tucked in here and
there. I normally don't need my back stroked with indulgent Praise.
But, after last week a little Love and Acceptance goes a long way. Here
is My FB Post from the other day about what I'm talking about. 
But,
the other day we were at a store. One of the employees was coming into
the store with about 20 carts. He was going over the bumpy surface that
they had in front of the store. It was loud and annoying for me, for
Kaden it was 10x worse. He covered his ears, dropped to the ground,
started kicking and screaming to stop. I tried
to pick him up and then I decided to let him work through it. Everyone
was staring and shaking their heads. I felt bad for Kaden, because he's a
great kid and I hated thinking that other people were sending out that
negative vibe that he was anything other then the amazzzzing kid I know
he is. Then this young guy walked by and said to his girlfriend or wife
loud enough for me to hear that that right there is why he will not be
having any kids. And older woman came to me and said back when you were a
kid I bet you didn't get away with what he's doing, I know I wouldn't
have let any of mine behave like this. I have 5 kids and 14 grand-kids.
So, I stood there and waited fighting back tears until Kaden was able
to get up and all he could say to me was van please. I don't have many
interactions like this, but when I do Man do they effect me!!!Have a Blessed Day!!!!
Hi Sheila, it sounds like that was a hard day both for you and your precious son. It's always refreshing to come across friendly people! :) Keep up the good work on your blog. blessings
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is on the spectrum and has sensory issues, too. I understand how you feel. These kind of situations are always tough!
ReplyDeleteThat definitely sounds like a difficult situation, but it seems as though you handled it well. It's so hard to be a mom and feel like we're doing a good job, it certainly doesn't help when you come across people like that. I a glad you had a more positive experience though :-)
ReplyDeleteIt is amazing what a different outlook different people can have on the same situations and just how much their words can affect us. I'm thankful you encountered the understanding lady. I look back now at some advice I gave to parents 20 years ago as a therapist before I had kids and shudder at my ignorance. Walking in someones shoes does make a difference. A sweet friend recently reminded me to get a mental image of someone doing something silly next time they say an unkind word. Blessings to you and your family this Christmas.
ReplyDelete((((huge hugs)))) A friend recently posted a great little card to hand out to the people who just don't "get it." It explained autism and (in her case, since it was her issue with people du jour) stemming. I think those are great ideas, just hand them out to people when they get rude and ridiculous. Someday, I might make some.
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