My sweet Kaden is such a neat little guy. And those that know him well know that he is the most straight forward, no nonsense kid and his emotions are limited to say the least. I have been struggling with that for a few years now. Because it is hurtful to not get hugs when wanted or to have your child ask u to leave his room because it's his "alone" time. He's very rigid and demanding of himself, he really could care less to ever interact with others unless he absolutely has to.
I remember like it was yesterday, one morning Kaden came to the table and sat down like he was expecting a response from me. I was like hey there!!! He looked at me.....crickets, crickets in the background!!! So, Kaden do you want to hang out, maybe play a game? He says, I guess we can, but only because there is nothing better to do right now.
Now, a typical child I would think how rude. But, Kaden said it so dry and monotone, not in a rude, ugly way. He couldn't tell it even bothered me, to him it's the truth and that's why he said it.
I did say to him that he should reword his sentence to be more kind towards others feelings. I gave a few softer approaches that he could have used. He replied back to me that there really is no need to waste useless flattery on people in your family. But if I need that then he would try harder....so would you like to play monopoly now?
That's my Kaden! :)